I hear dr Phil’s voice in my head when I say those words (see Dr Phil House Intro Theme Episode). U23 was just out in ddo, and I will soon post a blog about my experience in epic Orchard, but right now I would like to talk about me, us, ppl, players. Why do you play ddo? What is it that keeps you coming back? Mmo’s can have an addictive effect. Are you addicted and if so, why? Have you thought about it? Does it affect your personality?
For me, it’s rather simple. I’m an introvert. I don’t like ppl. I don’t like the sounds they make or the smells that surround them. Most of the time I want ppl to stay away from me, and I keep my headphones on at work, so I won’t hear the ppl around me. Sometimes my headphones don’t block out the sound well enough and I feel irritated. But at the same time I want company. I want to be acknowledged and appreciated, I want attention. I want to be part of the world and I want to be remembered. 18 years ago I for the first time went on a chat. It excited me, it was fun. 3 years later I was spending a lot of my free time getting to know new ppl in chat rooms, some who I then swapped emails with and allowed to get to know me better.
For a long time I’ve found it difficult to get to know ppl irl, I lock up and I want to just leave. From the safety of my own home I open up and let the others see the real me. When I started playing ddo I was scared and nervous, but soon found I really enjoyed sharing this experience with others. To me ddo was another social media where I could talk with ppl from the safety of my own home. I’ve also always enjoyed playing games and I’m fairy competitive, so I fit right in. Another thing that I noticed was that I enjoy taking charge. I might be really scared of new things, but when I get over the initial fear, I actually really enjoy the responsibility. I want to look out for my group and I want us to succeed.
I have met different kinds of ppl with different attitudes towards the game, and I have let them influence my own attitude. There are some ppl, that have come to to play an important role, though, and they keep me grounded. Having nice things and reaching certain goals in the game should never come before the ppl you play with. I enjoy playing this game, but if it wasn’t for the ppl in it, I would have quit ages ago.
So, what happens when we let the game become more important than ppl? When we become nasty and unfriendly and rude? When things don’t excite us anymore, and all we see are the nerfs? Maybe that is the time to quit? The game is supposed to be fun… if it is no longer fun, if it is affecting your life and the ppl around you.. maybe it’s time to look for something else?
So, to quote dr Phil, “I want you to get excited about your life”.. because this life is all you get.
Thank you for stopping by and have a wonderful day.